Opening Wisdom for Married Men

When you are married, guard your home with honour, transparency, and boundaries.

If a woman offers you food, respond wisely:

“My wife would have cooked at home.”

If you choose to eat there, call your wife and inform her immediately. If the person is not close, tell her kindly:

“Please speak with my wife directly.”

This is how you protect trust, avoid emotional entanglements, and prevent suspicion or gossip.

MAIN SERMON: SURVIVING BETRAYAL

Betrayal is a universal human experience.
Great destinies — Joseph, David, Jesus — all walked through betrayal.

Most times, it’s not the betrayal itself that hurts,
but the person who did it.

Why Do People Betray?

1. Personality & Character Flaws

Some people have unstable temperaments; the mask they wear eventually falls off.

SCRIPTURE: Proverbs 24:21 (KJV)

“My son, fear thou the LORD and the king: and meddle not with them that are given to change.”

Characteristics of a Betrayer

Proverbs 16:27–29 (KJV)

v27: “An ungodly man diggeth up evil: and in his lips there is as a burning fire.”
v28: “A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.”
v29: “A violent man enticeth his neighbour, and leadeth him into the way that is not good.”

Anyone who constantly gossips to you will eventually gossip about you.

2. Upbringing

A person raised in chaos often reproduces chaos.

If you refuse to discipline your children, you destroy their future.

SCRIPTURE: 1 Kings 1:6 (KJV)

“And his father had not displeased him at any time in saying, Why hast thou done so? and he also was a very goodly man; and his mother bare him after Absalom.”

David—though great—failed in parenting.
Never correct your spouse in front of the children. It produces rebellion and divides loyalty.

3. Negative Influence

Good hearts can be corrupted through wrong relationships.

Daniel 11:32 (KJV)

“And such as do wickedly against the covenant shall he corrupt by flatteries: but the people that do know their God shall be strong, and do exploits.”

Proverbs 25:23 (KJV)

“The north wind driveth away rain: so doth an angry countenance a backbiting tongue.”

Be careful who whispers into your ears.
The issue is not what people say — it is what you say when they say it.

4. Wrong Marriage

Some destinies were destroyed not by demons but by the person they married.

1 Kings 21:25 (KJV)

“But there was none like unto Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness in the sight of the LORD, whom Jezebel his wife stirred up.”

Marrying wrong is more dangerous than being single.

Recommended Resource — Marry Right

If you want practical, faith-based help on choosing the right spouse, pick up MARRYmatics: The Formulae for Marrying Right. It’s a clear, actionable guide to marrying well and avoiding the pitfalls of a wrong marriage.

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5. Stupidity / Innocent Foolishness

Not every betrayal comes from wickedness. Some come from innocent ignorance.

2 Samuel 15:11 (KJV)

“And with Absalom went two hundred men out of Jerusalem, that were called; and they went in their simplicity, and they knew not any thing.”

Some people support the wrong cause because of innocence — not wisdom.
This is the Mob Effect.

6. Hurts & Offenses

If you do not heal, you will hurt innocent people.

Matthew 24:10 (KJV)

“And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another.”

Not every relationship is replaceable.
This generation cuts off people too quickly — a dangerous culture.

7. Demonic Influence

Some betrayals are spiritually engineered.

John 13:2 (KJV)

“And supper being ended, the devil having now put into the heart of Judas Iscariot, Simon's son, to betray him.”

Never let the devil push you out of your covenant place.

8. Works of the Flesh

Certain behaviors indicate a heart ruled by sin.

Galatians 5:19–20 (KJV)

“Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these;
Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies.”

Anyone who destroys another person’s home cannot expect theirs to stand.

9. Sowing Seeds of Betrayal

Some reap betrayal because they once sowed betrayal.

Matthew 26:52 (KJV)

“Then said Jesus unto him, Put up again thy sword into his place: for all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword.”

10. Divine Orchestration (The Act of God)

Sometimes betrayal is part of God’s plan to reposition you.

1 Kings 11:9 (KJV)

“And the LORD was angry with Solomon, because his heart was turned from the LORD God of Israel…”

Some betrayals are God’s method of exposing, protecting, or redirecting you.

If You Have Been Betrayed — You Can Survive It

You may already know you were betrayed.
You may not know yet.
It may even be on the way.

But hear this:

Don’t get lost in the loss.
Don’t get bitter through betrayal.
Don’t just survive — THRIVE.

Recommended Resource — Healing After Betrayal

For a deeper, research-backed approach to healing from emotional wounds, infidelity, deceit, or chronic resentment, consider this powerful book: Living and Loving After Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment.